Abuse

 Abusive Teen Relationships

 Respect, trust, and consideration are what should be in a healthy relationship. But that's not always the case. **1 in 11 high schoolers report being abused by a date**. (TeensHealth). There is 3 different types of abuse: emotional, physical, and sexual. Physical, is obviously pushing, kicking, pulling hair, punching ect. Emotional is when your partner threatens you, intimidates you, or does anything to hurt your feelings. Sexual abuse is being forced into any kind of sexual experience you don't feel comfortable with or don't want

  "The Center for Disease Control (CDC) reports that nearly one in ten teens in grades 7 to 12, male and female, has been physically abused by a boy or girlfriend. Abused teens are more likely to drink heavily, use drugs, engage in riskysexual behavior, develop eating disorders, and attempt suicide"(Troubled Teen 101). Over time, abuse will continue on, and become more serious. In some cases, leading to death by the abuser, or suicide.

 " Teen dating violence often is hidden because teenagers typically:
 * are inexperienced with dating relationships.
 * are pressured by peers to act violently.
 * want independence from parents.
 * have "romantic" views of love"(//Domestic Violence Advocacy Program of Family Resources). //

Some young women believe that when the jealousy, possessiveness, and aggressiveness is 'romantic', and they're only doing it because they care. Boyfriend's may believe they need to posses their partner, or that they should demand intimacy, or its 'masculine' to be physically harmful to their girlfriend.

Are You Being Abused?
 When being pressured into a sexual experience you don't want, that is a sign that your relationship needs to focus more on respect. The phrase "If you love me you would..." Should NOT be used, to convince your partner at any time. If you've ever felt frightened or scared by the person you are dating, you know you aren't in a good relationship.  Your boyfriend shouldn’t text you excessively, control or complain about what you wear, get jealous or possessive, Threaten to hurt themselves if you leave them, Look or act in a way that scares you, Blame you for the reason they say hurtful things, stop you from seeing friends or family. You shouldn't have to act differently around your boyfriend or girlfriend, just to avoid arguing. You should be able to be comfortable; you shouldn't have to keep your opinions to yourself.

**You Can Get Out **.
<span style="display: block; font-family: Tahoma,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 120%; text-align: center;"> You need to take the step out of denial, and come to the understanding that you should be treated with respect, and should not be harmed by another person. You're not alone. You don't have to get out of your situation by yourself, you can turn to friends and family. Don't get manipulated, and don't isolate yourself from everyone other than your partner. If you are breaking up with the person, and you feel in frightened or threatened, you may need to end things via text, phone call, or email. It may be cruel, but you need to stay as safe as possible, and face to face may be dangerous. No one should tell you how to act, what to wear, or who to be. You are your own person, take charge.

//"A heartbreak is a blessing from God. It’s just his way of letting you realize he saved you from the wrong one.// ~Author Unknown " ("Life After Dating a Psycho").